Let school authority be firm, not fuzzy.
Bill Maxwell
Today's newspaper headlines and lead stories on
nightly news about the troubles of young people shock me, and I often find
myself becoming smug about how "different" kids were in "my day."
Last week, for example, after reading of a Florida
high school student who punched his science teacher in the face and of an
elementary school student who insisted on wearing a T-shirt bearing a banned
logo, I recalled my own high school days. Would I or any of my classmates have
punched a teacher or insisted on wearing contraband apparel?
Absolutely not.
Let me state right now that I do not believe that
children of my generation were better humans than youngsters are today. I do
believe, however, that the society in which we lived was less complex and,
perhaps, wiser than that of today.
Let children be children
Wily? A major reason is that the lines of authority
were clearly drawn, and I do not romanticize the past when I say that children
were children and adults were adults. Many of today's readers will be offended
by such blunt talk, but the fact is that the adults of my childhood --
especially our teachers -- enjoyed far greater control over their young charges.
In my elementary school, the wishes of our teachers
and principal were the law. We were not permitted, for example, to wear certain
clothes on campus, and boys could not wear hats or caps inside a building under
any circumstances. On the rare occasion when a girl wore revealing clothing,
grownups dealt with her firmly and promptly.
Few of us thought twice about accepting adult
authority. We naturally knew that our teachers were smarter than us, that they
were more experienced and more educated, that they could navigate the perilous
realms of uncertainty and make sense of the world for us.
I recall, for instance, when my 9-year-old sister
was killed by a drunken driver. In addition to my mother's nurturing, my
homeroom teacher, Constance Howard, set aside a few minutes each day to console
me and to let me talk about my loss. How wise Mrs. Howard was. How she impressed
me, a mere 14-year-old who had seen his sister die, whose sadness was unbearable
at times. Even at that young age, I respected Mrs. Howard's ability to measure
my grief and to literally give me the will to face each new day. No peer could
have helped me. I needed the guiding hand of an adult, one who set good examples
in her own life.
At the risk of over-generalizing, I lust say that
too many parents and heir children undercut the authority f their schools by
challenging the rules that students should follow while others are responsible
for their welfare.
Each time a child who wants to reach on campus is
supported by his r her parent and prevails, society at large loses because the
authority of le school is compromised. Each time child wins the right to wear a
banned t-shirt, society loses. Sensible rules are necessary in a sober society.
Slapped out of effectiveness
When I was a reporter in Fort Lauderdale, I saw a
parent slap a principal because the principal had disciplined the child. Every
student witnessing the incident clapped and cheered. From that day on, the
principal was ineffective as a leader. Eventually, she was replaced. Why?
Because she did not have the support of other adults.
And how often does the American Civil Liberties
Union defend the right of a student newspaper editor to print articles that the
publisher, usually the principal, forbids? These are bitter victories because
they teach budding journalists the wrong lessons. In the real world, publishers
and editors give the orders and the writers either obey or join the unemployment
line. Do student journalists have First Amendment rights? For sure. But, if they
seek successful careers, they had better learn to respect the rules of the
profession.
In my day, most parents supported and respected the
authority of teachers and other adults in schools. Our parents did not want to
hear our complaints about school. In fact, they conspired with our teachers
against us.
Today, though, many parents view schools as hostile
places that take away the rights of their children. Many parents think nothing
of suing their schools in the name of their children. In my day, such
litigiousness was unthinkable. Adults trusted other adults to do the right
thing, to make the right decisions.
In truth, today's children, like those of my
generation, want to be children. And they want adults to be adults. They want
guidance. They need it. The problem is that too many adults are too
irresponsible to be adults, thereby relinquishing their natural authority.
Bill Maxwell is an editorial writer and columnist
for the St. Petersburg Times, P.O. Box 1121, St. Petersburg, FL 33731. He can be
reached on the internet at [email protected].
